Stress!!!

It’s the Holiday Season… Stress is at a high. Shopping for presents, preparing special dinners, donating to charities, rushing, rushing rushing! By the way, ShmoozeTalk T-shirts make great gifts and a donation at the same time! I find the Holiday Season happy and somewhat Stressful mixed together with work and getting everything done on time to also find time to Relax, which is so very important. I’m looking forward to a little down time to enjoy my family and friends. How are you handling this time of the year, how Stressed are you?

Life is challenging and Stress is a normal part of our daily routine. Stress can be anticipation of the morning commute while trying to get to work on time. Stress can be racing to catch an airplane then finding out the flight is canceled. Sometimes the pressures of life seem to get out of control. If internal expectations or demands of others become too difficult to handle on your own, it is very important to find an outlet for discussion. ShmoozeTalk is a resource for sharing one’s thoughts and desires in order to help all of us achieve overall satisfaction in our lives.

Everyone needs someone to talk to from time to time. Friends, family and professionals are always willing to lend a hand in times of need. If you or somebody you care about have withdrawn from society and/or exhibits other symptoms of depression, this is serious. Don’t hesitate or delay. We must be willing to openly communicate as well as accept suggestions for making positive changes.

Good Relationships can help relieve our Stress.
On the other hand, bad Relationships will cause unhealthy Stress. Living an exceptionally stressful life is harmful both mentally and physically and can cause not only a very unhappy life but also major illnesses.

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How do you handle Stress?
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John December 24, 2011 at 7:53 AM

I feel like I’m being pulled apart. Too much responsibility with my job, wife, 3 kids, a house, 3 cats and a dog. My wife works part time and that helps with our finances but my job is now shaky due to the economy. Stress about losing my job really has me depressed. I’m looking for a new position but it’s tough to find. I keep myself together for the sake of my family but it’s hard to always hide my worries from my wife. The stress is tough. I will go on and keep trying to solve my work situation. I hope that the economy gets better soon for everybody.

Shirley December 22, 2010 at 3:34 PM

Dreams can come true! I finally got up the courage to divorce my spouse after a much too long miserable, abusive marriage. Mr. Right came along and now I could not be happier!
There are many women like Jamie and me who stay too long in a bad marriage, afraid for one reason or another to get out. I hope all of these women have the courage, like I finally did, to leave and look forward to a much better future with no abuse.

Head Shmoozer December 8, 2009 at 10:39 PM

Thank you Tammi, we appreciate your comments and hope that you enjoy a very happy life. As for Jamie and others in her situation, we hope they have the strength to realize that life can be good once again after a bad abusive marriage/relationship. Happy Holidays to everyone!

Tammi December 6, 2009 at 6:14 PM

Jamie,
I have been divorced for 11 years. Yes, it’s hard sometimes and I get lonely but I’m so much happier being alone than being with my abusive x-husband. You will too and once you move forward you’ll be surprised how easy it becomes. Not to mention leaving yourself open to find the right man. When you stop looking he will appear……

Kyle December 6, 2009 at 9:51 AM

Some things just can’t be talked out. After years of abuse in her marriage, it’s time for Jamie and other women like Jamie to wake up and move on with their lives. I know, because I stayed in a marriage for 20 years that brought me nothing but heartache and pain. Counseling for my spouse and I didn’t work because she didn’t want it to work, instead the counselor got rich. Maybe we were not meant to be with one person, or maybe we need to have more then one mate? I mean isn’t that what other primates have done in the past? Sorry, but I am bitter from putting my heart and soul into my marriage and not having it work out when I did my best. However, I have not given up and I am looking forward to finding my soulmate. Jamie should do the same.

Head Shmoozer December 4, 2009 at 7:00 PM

Thank you Talk It Out, your comments are very wise. No relationship/marriage is perfect. After all, we are individuals. However, if two people love and care for each another, and want to make it work, they will.

Talk It Out December 4, 2009 at 4:53 PM

No matter how long you know your spouse before getting married, there are always issues, big and small, that will arise as time goes on. It is very important that both people in a relationship have open communication. I wish Jamie much love and happiness in the new year 2010!

Anonymous November 28, 2009 at 3:36 PM

To Jamie…get rid of the bum!

Head Shmoozer November 28, 2009 at 2:42 PM

Thank you Jamie’s Special Friend for writing to us about a topic that is often ignored and hidden in a marriage/relationship. Abuse is painful, stressful and no one should put up with it. If there is no way to make the relationship better by either counseling or other therapy, then the only other answer is divorce. Unfortunately, children are extremely effected when parents are abusive to each other, which, according to statistics, can lead to abusive relationships when the children become adults. Don’t forget that children learn what they live.
Divorce is difficult and painful for everyone. However, what you mentioned is so very true… life is too short. We must make the best decisions and life for ourselves. Hopefully, for someone like your friend Jamie, another door will open for her when she closes the door of the abusive relationship that she is in.

Jamie's Special Friend November 23, 2009 at 1:17 PM

Sometimes stress is impossible to deal with. Marriage, divorce, children, friends, work, social activities, all add to the daily pressures and overwhelm our inner being. An example of this is my friend Jamie. After the untimely death of her first husband, Jamie found herself alone trying to raise her young children. Because of the unbearable financial pressures and stress in her life, Jamie married on the rebound to a man who she really didn’t know well. They’ve been married for too many years and she’s thinking about divorce because he is mentally, verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive to her for a long time. He also has a drinking problem and can’t hold a steady job. Jamie owns her own business. Her kids are married with children and she would like to move closer to them. Her husband has no desire to re-locate. So is it time for her to dissolve her marriage and move on with her life, or stick it out and continue to suffer? She is a beautiful woman both inside and out and deserves to be loved by a man who adores and cares about her. I told her that in order to find happiness, she needs to make a decision regarding her current marriage, but of course she’s terrified of the unknown. I also told her that when one door closes another one will open and to have confidence in herself. In my opinion, no one deserves to be in abusive marriage or relationship… life is too short. Any other suggestions for Jamie to help her move forward?

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